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Codependency recovery, inner child healing, Joyous Spirituality - Joy to You and Me

"Codependence is a very vicious and powerful form of Delayed Stress Syndrome. . . Codependence is being at war with ourselves - which makes it impossible to trust and Love ourselves. Codependence is denying parts of ourselves so that we do not know who we are.  Recovery from the disease of Codependence involves stopping the war within so that we can get in touch with our True Self, so that we can start to Love and trust ourselves."

"In order to start be-ing in the moment in a healthy, age-appropriate way it is necessary to heal our "inner child."  The inner child we need to heal is actually our "inner children" who have been running our lives because we have been unconsciously reacting to life out of the emotional wounds and attitudes, the old tapes, of our childhoods."

"Codependence deals with the core issues of the human dilemma.  Codependence has grown out of the cause from which all symptoms arise. That cause is Spiritual dis-ease: not being at ease, at one with Spiritual Self."

"We are not sinful, shameful human creatures who have to somehow earn Spirituality.  We are Spiritual Beings having a human experience."

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Joy to You & Me

The web site of Robert Burney and Joy to You & Me Enterprises.   Robert is a codependency therapist, Spiritual teacher, and author of the Joyously inspirational book  -


The Dance of Wounded Souls
"The point that I am making is that our understanding of Codependence has evolved to realizing that this is not just about some dysfunctional families, our very role models, our prototypes, are dysfunctional. Our traditional cultural concepts of what a man is, of what a woman is, are twisted, distorted, almost comically bloated stereotypes of what masculine and feminine really are."

"It is necessary to own and honor the child who we were in order to Love the person we are. And the only way to do that is to own that child's experiences, honor that child's feelings, and release the emotional grief energy that we are still carrying around."

(Quotations in this color are from - Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls - by Robert Burney)

A Formula for Recovery - for Empowerment, Serenity, and Freedom

Codependence / Codependency / Adult Child of Alcoholic or dysfunctional family Recovery

+ inner child healing (develop Loving relationships with the wounded parts of self)

+ emotional energy release / grief (including rage) work

+ reprogramming of dysfunctional codependent mental attitudes and false beliefs

+ internal boundaries to counteract toxic shame / abuse of critical parent/disease voice

+ Spiritual integration of belief in Unconditionally Loving Higher Power / God-Force / Goddess Energy / Great Spirit into emotional relationship with self and life

= Joy and Love to You and Me

Rave Reviews for The Dance of Wounded Souls

Joyously Inspirational Spiritual Book  Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls " . . most powerful book I've ever encountered on codependency"

" . . takes inner child healing to a new level"

"This book is truly a masterpiece. . . Wouldn't it be great if every living being on the planet read this book? Global transformation!"

" . . innovative and inspiring, and may just be the answer for so many seeking spiritual guidance."

"Why isn't this book on the bestseller list?  I think it certainly will be someday. You have incorporated many concepts of Truth into one beautiful, soul touching, and integrated piece of genius." 

To see Reviews & Testimonials for the book go to Reviews

Spiritual Teacher and Codependency Therapist Robert Burney, whose work has been compared to John Bradshaw's "except much more spiritual" and described as "taking inner child healing to a new level," has developed innovative, powerful techniques and tools for emotional healing and Spiritual integration

Robert, whose process is firmly grounded on Twelve Step Recovery Principles, specializes in teaching individuals how to become empowered by having internal boundaries so they can learn to relax and enjoy life while healing. 

His belief is that we are Spiritual Beings having a human experience and that the key to enjoying life is awakening to consciousness of our True Spiritual Nature and then integrating that Loving Truth into our relationships with self and with life. 

In his book Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "A Cosmic Perspective on Codependence and the Human Condition" he postulates that Codependency (i.e. outer or external dependence) is The Human Condition and that we have now entered a new Age of Healing and Joy in which it is possible to heal the planet through healing our relationships with our selves.

"Codependency is about having a dysfunctional relationship with self!  With our own bodies, minds, emotions, and spirits. With our own gender and sexuality. With being human. Because we have dysfunctional relationships internally, we have dysfunctional relationships externally.

We do not have the power to change others - we do have the power to change our relationship with self by healing our codependency/wounded souls, and tuning into Higher Self.  We can access the capacity to accept, embrace, forgive, have compassion for, and set boundaries with, all parts of self.  By learning to Love our self, we will gain the capacity to Truly Love our neighbor .

Changing our relationship with life can transform life into an exciting adventure.  Changing our relationship with self will change the world."   ~   Robert Burney

5/16/22 - News: I am still doing online Workshops using Zoom


A Day of Intensive Spiritual Integration Training in Morro Bay - 8/6/20 it is unkown when in person workshops will be possible again - 2020 a Life-Changing Workshop!

New & News January 7th, 2013:  Announcing the publication of Robert’s newest eBook: The Law of Attraction - Misunderstood & Misinterpreted. This eBook is available now in Amazon Kindle format.

Insights on codependency recovery, inner child work, emotional healing & Spiritual Awakening from Robert's book, articles, columns, & future books.

The Belief System:

What is codependency / codependence ?
Mystical Metaphysical Spirituality

Codependence / codependency - Defined

A Dance of Shame, Suffering, & Self-Abuse

Codependence vs Interdependence

Codependency as Delayed Stress Syndrome

The evolution of the term "Codependence"

The Codependency Recovery Process

Truth vs emotional truth

A Kinder, Gentler, Cosmic Perspective of Spirituality

Setting Personal Boundaries

Emotional Abuse

The Process Work:

Inner child healing - How to begin
Inner child healing - Why do it?

Learning to Love our self

Loving the Wounded Child Within

Feeling the Feelings

Internal Boundaries

Inner Child Healing

The Grief Process

Grief, Love, & Fear of Intimacy

Union Within

Positive Affirmations 

Miscellaneous Topics:
spiritual integration

Spirituality for Agnostics and Atheists 

Questions about Alcoholism 

Alcoholism and Codependency

Twelve Step Recovery

The New Age

Old Souls & Karma

Empowerment & Victimization

Jesus & Christ Consciousness

Self Worth

Emotional Incest

Romantic Relationships:

Romantic Relationships & Toxic Love

Meditation on Romantic Commitment

The Heartbreak of Romantic Relationships

Romantic Heartbreak part 2

Romantic Heartbreak part 3

The Emotional Dynamics of Dysfunctional Romantic Relationships

Dynamics part 2

An Adventure in Romance - Loving & Losing Successfully

Codependent Relationships Dynamics Series of Articles

part 1 - Power Struggle

part 2 - Dysfunctional Definition of Love

part 3 - Codependent & Counterdependent Behavior

part 4 - Come Here, Go Away

Joyously Inspirational Spiritual Book  Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls
Ordering information & Review quotes for:

Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls

About the Author  (link will take you to Joy2MeU)

Authors Forward from the book 

Reviews & Testimonials for the book

Online Columns:

Sexuality March 2000

The True Nature of Love part 1 

The True Nature of Love part 2

The True Nature of Love part 3

The True Nature of Love part 4

The True Nature of Love part 5

The True Nature of Love part 6

Emotional Release Techniques 

Stinking Thinking 

The Emotional Frontier Within 

Thanksgiving & Happy Holidays 

Roles In Dysfunctional Families 

Mother and Fathers 


Other pages:

Joy to You & Me Bookstore  Joy to You & Me Recommended Books 

Index of Question & Answer pages   Robert's responses to questions sent by e-mail and past Joy to You & Me Newsletters.

Links page to recommended web sites. *Updated 12-13*

Joy2MeU~Journal Journal in which Robert is publishing his next two books in installments.*Updated 11-12* (link will take you to Joy2MeU)

Testimonials for Joy to You & Me and Joy2MeU web sites, book, and tapes. (this link will take you to Joy2MeU but as of January 2005 Testimonial page 2, page 3, and page 4 are on this site.

For easier site navigation us the Site Map

This was Robert's original site and articles have only been added to the newer Joy2MeU web site since 2003.  New additions are announced on the
New and news page

New Dec. 2013 CodependencyRecoveryExpert My new blog on

June 2018 - first Update Newsletter in 6 years

February 2019 - A Valentine's Day Update Newsletter

Newest: *May 2022* Check out New and news page.

It is possible to get personally autographed copies of my book from my website or You can get Books, eBooks, and Audiobooks through AmazonAQmazon

6/2015 The latest news - including two new audiobooks on Joy2MeU New page

6/2013 Check out our new Landing Site for a brief overview of the work of Codependency Recovery Inner Child Healing Pioneer Robert Burney - including his articles on websites that are user friendly for mobile devices.

4/2013 Special Offers on Robert Burney’s most recently published books: Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls, Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light, and Romantic Relationships ~ The Greatest Arena for Spiritual & Emotional Growth. 

Relationship book cover 9/2012 Announcing the publication of my book
Romantic Relationships ~ The Greatest Arena
for Spiritual & Emotional Growth

Codependent Dysfunctional Relationship Dynamics
& Healthy Relationship Behavior.

Cover of Dancing in The Light
Announcing the publication of
Codependency Recovery:
Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light

Book 1: Empowerment, Freedom, and Inner Peace through Inner Child Healing

(aka A Formula for Spiritual Integration and Emotional Balance)

Intensive Training Days with Spiritual Teacher, inner child healing pioneer Robert Burney.  Learn his innovative Spiritual Integration Formula for Inner Healing.  To find out the locations and dates for upcoming appearances go to Day of Intensive Training

New web sites:
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News: Special  Offers

To see a list of the more than 250 pages of free content  on Joy2MeU go to the site index page

As of September 2005, there is a new pay to view section of Joy2MeU Dancing in Light

Also available on Joy2MeU:

Telephone Counseling with Robert

Choosing a therapist or counselor with Discernment

A resource page to help people find Co-Dependents Anonymous and Adult Child of Alcoholics meetings locally.

Donations / Love Offerings

5 new pages with articles originally published on my Suite 101 page: 
To Parents of Alcoholics / Addicts

Enabling & Rescuing vs Tough Love

Letting Go of Unavailable People

Obsession / Obsessive Thinking Part 1

Obsession / Obsessive Thinking Part 2

The codependency movement is NOT ruining marriages!
Chapter 2: Romantic Relationships 

A new online book being published as it is written: 
Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in the Light 
Book 2 A Dysfunctional Relationship with Life
Codependency Recovery: Author's Foreword
Chapter 3: Emotional Honesty 
Chapter 4: false self image 
Chapter 5: Pavlov's Dog 
Chapter 6: ego strength/self worth 
Chapter 7: Multiple levels of selfishness
Chapter 8: Codependents as Emotional Vampires
Chapter 9: Codependency = Emotional Anorexia
Chapter 10: Normal Families are Dysfunctional
Chapter 11: Codependent Counselors / Therapists
Chapter 12: Codependency in New Age Movement 
Chapter 13: The Music of Love is not shaming
Chapter 14:  Spiritual Manifesto
Chapter 15:  Masculine and Feminine 

The Miracle of the 
Twelve Step Recovery Process

Fear of Intimacy

Co-Creation: Owning your Power to Manifest Love

Attack on America: A Spiritual Healing Perspective - an online book published on Joy2MeU beginnning September 22, 2001

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Some Testimonials:

"I was reading this site and it was as if you were addressing me personally.  This is my story.  My inner child is running my life.  I am so glad I found this web site.  Thank you so much.  You've given me much needed hope."

"Want to say how brilliant your site is, and how much appreciate your honesty and setting up the site. Lifted me from a dark place today to hoping, to seeing new and very important ways of tackling things. Especially like how clearly put things, details about how to process. Thanks."

"I can't thank you enough for the very profound spiritual healing your book on tape has provided to me.  I cannot express in words that which I feel as a result of having truly "heard" your message of self-love and spiritual awakening.  Your message has forever changed my path in this lifetime.  Thank you so much for sharing your perceptions and experiences through your book, and your website as well.  You are a guide and a healer, and I will be forever grateful for having connected and crossed paths with you and your work."

"I cannot praise you enough for sharing your insight with us. I have learned SO much from you. I have been freed from my hell. . . . Thank you for your wealth of knowledge..."

"I have been on your web site and have been reading and copying so much of your work.  It speaks to my heart and soul like nothing else I have come across.  I have read and studied many authors on this healing journey of mine but you really relate to all of my issues like no one else.  I have read over 300 books in the past few years but you explain everything in simple but yet so enlightening truths.  I wish you success in touching others that need healing and I thank you again for sharing to the world your message.  God bless you and you are making a difference to many. Oprah needs to read your work." 

"I just read your wonderful book, thank you for writing it. I have been a spiritual teacher since childhood, however, your book let me organize my thoughts a new way, a new perspective. I now have a much deeper understanding and am still learning from it. Dance, is one of the truly transformational works of our time thanks again" 

"Today, when I read some of your writing, it struck me that your perspective on philosophy, spirituality and psychology is really unique. I've read and listened to many spiritual people, but I've never found someone who combines love, acceptance and humor in such a profound manner." 

"I am a 52 year old psychotherapist and have struggled with codependency all my life.  Up until tonight I have been disappointed in the literature and treatment of codependency.  Your work is brilliant!  I can't find words to express my appreciation with the depth I am feeling."

"I love the fact that you are able to clearly bridge and tie in Christian teachings and (so-called) New Age philosophies in a clear and concise way for so many to hear at the same time."

"Robert, you are a metaphysical Stephen Hawking. Thank you." 

 (Go to Joy2MeU Testimonials page to read heart touching messages from all over the world about the book, tapes, and web site.)

A Preview of A Magical, Mystical, Spiritual Fable:

Book 1 of The Dance of the Wounded Souls Trilogy

"Once upon a time, in a place where there is no time, in a place where there is no place, God was alone."

The Dance of the Wounded Souls Trilogy  Book 1 - "In the beginning . . . "
Cover of the Joy2MeU Journal - Mystical/Metaphysical Spirituality, Codependence Recovery, Planetary Healing
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