Quotations in maroon are from
The Dance of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney (Copyright 1995). Quotations
from columns & articles (Copyright 1996, 1997, 1998) written by Mr.
Burney are noted and in blue text. Blue text material that is not in quotes
is from Robert's upcoming book Wounded Souls Dancing in the Light
(Copyright 1998) unless otherwise noted. There
are several authors quoted in excerpts from The Dance of Wounded Souls,
those are noted with copyright acknowledgment at the end of the applicable
A Cosmic Perspective - the Kinder, Gentler Way
"Codependence causes us to have a distorted and
repressed emotional process, and the only way out is through the feelings.
Codependence gives us a scrambled mind, a reversed dysfunctional way of
looking at ourselves and the world, and we have to be able to use the wonderful
tool that is our mind while changing our attitudes and reprogramming our
thinking. It seems awfully complicated, doesn't it? That is because it
is! On another level it is also very simple. It is a Spiritual Dis-ease.
It can only be healed through a Spiritual Cure. It cannot be healed by
only looking at the symptoms. That is backwards.
The cure is available through surrendering control
to a Higher Power. We cannot do this healing by ourselves. We need a Loving
Higher Power in our lives. We need other Recovering people in our lives."
"Everything is unfolding perfectly from a Cosmic
Perspective! There are no accidents, no coincidences, no mistakes! You
are perfectly where you are supposed to be on your Path. You always have
been and always will be!
The God-Force is powerful enough to get us to
where we are supposed to be with or without our help! We do not have the
power to screw up the Great Spirits plan.
What we do have is the option of making it easier
on ourselves. The goal in Recovery is not to become perfect. The goal is
to make life an easier, more enjoyable experience.
The way I think of it is that my Higher Power
works with the carrot and stick approach: like a mule driver trying to
get a mule moving, he can either dangle a carrot in front of the mule and
get the mule moving after the carrot, or he can take a stick and beat him
until he gets moving.
It is a lot easier on me to follow the carrots
that my Higher Power dangles in front of me than to force the Universe
to use a stick to get me moving. Either way I am going to get to where
the Universe wants me - but the carrot method is a lot easier on me.
The more that I do my healing, the clearer I get
on receiving the messages - the more I get to follow the carrots instead
of experiencing the stick. The dance of Recovery is a process of starting
to Love ourselves enough to start changing life into an easier, more enjoyable
"So what I am saying is not that you are doing
something wrong if you are not happy with your life. I am saying, "Hey,
this is the reason that doing life the way we were taught doesn't work
- it is not our fault!" I am saying, "Hey, there are answers, there is
hope. We have new tools now - and they work! Isn't that great news?"
This healing process works. It works miraculously
because in aligning with Truth we come into harmony with the universal
laws of energy interaction. We learn to go with the natural healthy flow
instead of being at war with it. We learn to Love and accept ourselves
instead of being at war within."
"Part of the reason for being here was to experience
being human. We have all lived multiple lifetimes. We have all experienced
every facet of being human. We are now, not just healing our wounds from
this lifetime, we are doing Karmic settlement - on a massive scale, at
a very accelerated rate."
"Karma is the Loving, wonderful law of energy
interaction which governs human interaction. Like the other levels of Universal
Law, it is about cause and effect. In this case, "what you sow, you reap.
Karmic Law dictates that every action of cause on the Physical Plane is
paid for with a consequence of effect on the Physical Plane. In other words,
no one can end up in the hole, or in some hell in an afterlife. (Hell is
here on earth, and we have all experienced it already.)"
"This is not home. This is also not a prison.
This is boarding school and we are getting ready for graduation. And it
is all a perfect part of the Divine Script.
We are here to experience this human evolutionary
process. The more we awaken to the Truth of who we are (Spiritual beings)
and why we are here (to experience being human), and stop giving power
to the false gods of money, property and prestige; people, places and things;
the more we can celebrate being here!
Buddha had it half right: We need to let go of
our attachment to the illusions of this Illusion. But as we stop giving
power to the illusions, we can begin to celebrate being here, we can begin
to enjoy our human experience.
This is a playground, this is a wonderful summer
camp. It is full of beautiful colors and wondrous sights, animals and birds
and plants, mountains and oceans and meadows, whales and butterflies. It
is full of tastes and smells and sounds and sensations."
"A "state of Grace" is the condition of being
Loved unconditionally by our Creator without having to earn that Love.
We are Loved unconditionally by the Great Spirit. What we need to do is
to learn to accept that state of Grace. The way we do that is to change
the attitudes and beliefs within us that tell us that we are not Lovable."
"One of the ironies of this whole business is
something that physicists have learned from quantum physics. They have
learned that the physical world is made up of energy fields that are temporary
manifestations of energy interactions. All of the energy fields of the
physical world are temporary. Some last for fractions of a second, some
last for billions of years - but they are all temporary illusions.
This means that the Truest reality in the physical
world is in the interaction. It is in our interactions that we can access
Truth and Joy and Love. In other words it is in our relationships.
The most real thing here, the place where the
highest Truth exists, is in the interactions: in our relationships. Our
relationship with ourselves is a reflection of our relationship with our
Creator, with the Great Spirit. And our relationship with ourselves is
reflected out into our relationship with everyone and everything in our
Spirituality is about relationships. God exists
in the quality of our relationships.
When I look at a beautiful sunset
am a temporary illusion and the sunset is also a temporary illusion
most real, God-like quality is the energy of Beauty and Joy that I allow
myself to access by being open and willing to experience the sunset. If
I am caught up in one of my ego's "trauma dramas," then I will not be conscious
of the sunset or open to experiencing the Joy and Beauty of the moment.
A very important part of this healing process
is taking time to smell the flowers. Our job is to be here in the now and
to do this healing.
I spent most of my life trying to become - perfect,
loved, accepted, respected, etc., etc. It did not work because I was looking
outside for something that can only be found within.
Now I know that I am not in control of this process
and that what I am becoming is in the hands of a Loving (although somewhat
slow-working) Great Spirit. I do not have to worry anymore about becoming
- all I have to do is be. I just have to suit up and show up for life today
and do what is in front of me. And everything will work out better than
I could ever have planned it.
There are no accidents, no coincidences - everything
is unfolding perfectly."
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